I Won’t Be Home For Christmas

Christmas in exile

According To Hoyt

I won’t be home for Christmas. And neither will you. And in fact, very few people throughout what was once quaintly called Christendom will be home for Christmas.

When I was thinking about this post, I was going to say that we’d never spent Christmas on the road, but that’s not precisely true. Our technically first Christmas together was spent in Portugal. See, our wedding was on the 28th of December, so we went over a little earlier (about a week.) For one, I needed to have fittings on the gown. No, don’t ask. Yes it was insane.

But that was arguably better than our second Christmas, when we were alone. Being childless and away from all family, even though I’d cooked a turkey breast for lunch, we found ourselves all out of sorts, so we went out in the evening to a steakhouse, and that was worse, actually. Because…

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Ho Ho Ho

I can’t overstate it, but this has been a rough year for all of us. So in the spirit of the season, (Christmas, Hanukkah, Yule, and Kwanzaa) I am writing a list of the books I am reading. It’s my gift to you.

  1. Silent Knight– Robb Howell I just finished reading this one a few days ago. It has a slight noir flair and is fun and interesting. Robb is one of the newer writers I decided to sample this year. I want to read more and he has assured me that he has more about Nick Patara in the works.
  2. The Cute Moose – Cedar Sanderson Cedar is one of those writers that is very creative. She mostly writes fantasy, but this time she has written a children’s book. I liked it so much that I sent a copy to my three-year-old niece.
  3. Cool as Ice – (Wine of the Gods series) Pam Uphoff I met Pam through Sarah A. Hoyt. This is one of Pam’s later books in the Wine of the Gods series. I suggest going to book one of the series and read right through. It is a very fun read and has both elements of science and fantasy. I read her books as soon as she publishes them.
  4. Familiar Tales – (Familiar Tales series) Alma T.C. Boykin Actually I am really invested in this series. I really like book 2, which is the start of Leila’s story. I’m really into this series right now.
  5. Deep Pink – Sarah A Hoyt Another noir like story with a funny twist. Also, go look at her sci-fi. It is really really really good.

There are many more authors I like to read, but at this moment I’m on a noir fantasy kick. And just to be fair, here is one of my older offerings for Christmas–

Santa’s Boots


According To Hoyt

I’m not actually stupid, you know, and I did grow up in Colorado. As far back as I can remember we used to joke that weathermen in the area go stark raving mad, and that we could get a better weather forecast by flipping a coin or using another form of divination than by listening to the so called experts.

When I was seven there was a a snow storm on my birthday. Which wouldn’t be all that weird, except that my birthday is on the fourth of July. Oh, and the storm was in the morning and by evening it was 80 degrees.

When I learned to drive at 16, mom always made sure even if I was just driving the two miles to the grocery store I had space blankets, water and power bars in the car. Summer and winter. Just in case, you know?

And in winter?…

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What is Joy?

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Sometimes I need a little guidance outside myself so I throw the I Ching coins and read the hexagram for that day. Sometimes I get scolded and sometimes I receive insights into my challenges. This morning the hexagram was #58 Joy. In other translations, it can also be called “Open Connections.”

When I throw the coins I am very well aware that this advice was around about 1000 BC even though it only recently came to the Western world. Still when I read it, the words remind me of things my grandfather, may he rest in peace, used to say to me.

So as I was reading the English translation of hexagram #58, I realized that I didn’t know what joy was… because it is one of the small quiet emotions. When I looked around for a definition, I found that the online dictionaries dismissed joy as happiness at receiving something. It turned joy into a materialistic coin. Do you only get joy when you receive a promotion, a new car, or a child? I can see joy with the birth of a child because there is so much in that gift. But a car?

In the religious side, joy is associated with openness and communication, mostly communication with family. So did that mean because I am alone, I cannot feel joy? I think that if you have good relations with members of your family that maybe joy can be easier, but once again the definition reeked of capitalism and coin. You get joy for good behavior. It just doesn’t feel right to me.

I think because joy is so quiet that I zoom past the feeling and never quite remember it. I feel that quietness when I am holding my dog or watching a sunrise. I miss that feeling when I leaned against my late-hubby and rested my head against his shoulder.

When we walked hand in hand and talked, I felt that same feeling.

So maybe joy doesn’t come from receiving things, but maybe joy is actually wrapped up in gratitude.

Thank you for the food we eat,
Thank you for the world so sweet,
Thank you for the birds that sing,
Thank you God for everything.

Getting Ahead On the 2021 Bingo Card

Some thoughts on the year ahead.

According To Hoyt

A friend just sent me this and it so perfectly accords with my feelings, I had to share. I mean, I COULD suffer alone, but why?

Proposed 2021 Calendar-

January– War with Interdimensional aliens

February- Vampires reveal themselves as having been real all the time, and explain that they are in a drawn out battle with the Fey.

March– General Trump leads a contingent of Jager Robots against dopplegangers from another timeline that merges with ours.

April– The great old ones lead a dark army against the aliens. Humans unsure as to why we’re not the priority.

June- The great emperors of China, now arisen in a combined single soul calling itself, roughly, the High Lord, attempt to attack with an army of zombies while nobody is looking.

July- Things get very strange here.

August- Pope Trump, emperor of Saturn, ascends after defeating his predecessor in single…

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